BRILLIANT, INDEPENDENT AND CAPABLE WOMEN CAN FEEL DEEPLY INADEQUATE AND DOUBT THEIR SELF WORTH WHEN THEY MOST NEED TO RECEIVE SUPPORT.In our culture, needing support is often seen as a sign of weakness. Stretching ourselves thin, depleting our resources until we’re running on empty and burning out are the gold standards that makes us feel like we’re pulling our weight in this system.In times of change, transition and breakdown, we can start spiralling into alienation, shame and even despair. We’re determined to push through and prove that we’re ok, that feels normal. Fighting this battle single-handedly might feel heroic but ultimately reinforces the false belief that the world is a cold, uncaring place that only wants to suck you dry.What if we could be in the flow of true abundance, giving and receiving freely? Women (and men) feel guilty and fear rejection from others for being selfish and taking what they need to feel relaxed, rested and healthy. They suffer in silence instead, only to end up feeling angry and resentful later.Running on empty, pressuring yourself to be selfless and sacrifice your needs is a sugar coated pill - sweet at first but leaves a lingering bitter taste in your mouth.Learning to accept and generate support is a forgotten skill. We can replace the struggle with self care, the isolation with connection and the overwhelm with peace.What’s your response to needing support?Does it feel needy and repulsive or empowering and natural?
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